Today is June 11 and the Navigate the Chaos question to consider is “how often do you find fault?” If you spend more time finding fault for your lot in life navigating the chaos and practicing the art of living well will become a virtual impossibility. Those who translate their dreams into action and practice the art of living well spend little time finding fault. What good does it do? Has finding fault worked for you? Has it made you feel better? To what end?
Add up the mental and physical energy you have spent blaming others, finding fault, crying that someone, somewhere has it out for you. If the sum of that time is more than a minute or two a day how can you possible expect to translate your dreams into reality?
You might believe your life is mean. Fine. But there are over seven billion people in the world. Is your ego so strong you honestly believe you are the only one going through your situation right now? To navigate the chaos, you will have to get over your ego and meet your life where it is to live it.
Author Henry David Thoreau wrote “However mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun it and call it hard names. It is not so bad as you are. It looks poorest when you are richest. The faultfinder will find faults even in paradise. Love your life, poor as it is.”
How often do you feel as though your life is mean?
How often do you shun life and call it hard names?
How often do you find fault even in good times?
How often do you love your life, even in times of despair?
Jameson Lee Taillon did not find fault. Taillon is a Canadian American professional baseball pitcher for the Pittsburgh Pirates of Major League Baseball (MLB). Taillon was drafted by the Pirates as the second overall pick in the 2010 MLB draft. Jameson is a man of routines, most of them based on the notion that control creates results. One of them involves getting to the ballpark every day as early as possible. "That way," he says, "the chaos comes to me instead of me walking into the chaos."
Taillon’s journey has been chaotic as he missed the 2014 season after Tommy John surgery and 2015 after hernia surgery.
But in 2017 something happened in his life that illustrated how control has its limits and chaos has a mind of its own. On May 2, 2017, Taillon felt a lump on his left testicle. After tests confirmed testicular cancer, he needed surgery. Six days later, he underwent a one-hour surgery at to remove his left testicle.
Several days later, on May 7, 2017 he posted the following statement on his Twitter account:
“When I was a kid, I spent countless numbers of hours dreaming of being a Major League Pitcher. Always determined (borderline obsessed) with working hard to make it, I never doubted myself. However, as a naïve little guy, I never realized that each person has a different path and journey along their way to accomplish their goals. Tommy John Surgery, Sports Hernia Surgery, a 105-mph line drive off of my hard head, and this most recent discovery are just a few of the stops along the way. They have all just added fuel to my burning fire and inspired me to become even better. I vowed to use every setback as an opportunity for growth. Today I lost a piece of my 'Manhood.' But today I am feeling like more of a man than I ever have. My journey has not been the smoothest. But it is my journey, and I wouldn't change it for anything. Thank you to my family, girlfriend, teammates, doctors, Pirates fans, and the entire Pirates organization for the support.”
The Testicular Cancer Awareness Foundation states that exertion is off-limits for up to four weeks after surgery. In less than three weeks, Jameson was pitching in a minor league rehab game.
Baseball hall of fame player and coach Casey Stengel said “All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for... reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. Regardless of how much you blame him you will not succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”
How often do you find fault?