Today is July 7 and the Navigate the Chaos question to consider is “how often do you say ‘I am too busy?’” People who navigate the chaos and practice the art of living well are busy. Their days are filled with tasks, their nights are often preoccupied with plans for the next day, and their thoughts are generally on their forward progress. They are busy, but you will rarely hear them say how busy they are. Those who work hard at translating their dreams into reality understand there is no benefit to saying: ‘I am so busy.” It simply fails to provide any inspiration to their work. It may make them feel better temporarily but it simply lacks any ability to support the path they are traveling.
As soon as you have the urge to say: “I am too busy,” “I am so busy,” or “You have no idea how busy I am,” just stop. STOP! Just stop it. Everyone is busy. Get over yourself. Would you like a prize? Perhaps a toy, a cookie, or a star for how busy you are? Here is a little-known secret, no one cares. Hurtful? Maybe. Honest? Definitely.
The phrase “no one cares, work harder” is one of the more popular memes these days. The phrase now appears on everything from mugs, to shirts, to inspirational posters. So, when you are just about to tell yourself, or someone else, recall this phrase “no one cares, work harder.”
All too often people obsess over how busy they are without any sense of accomplishment. Some people stay busy to keep themselves happy. Still others stay busy to brag about how busy they are to impress others. Some people are busy just for the sake of being busy. These people are not grinding it out nor are they working towards a specific goal or translating theory into action. They are merely justifying how busy they are. Successful people who navigate the chaos often remind themselves to avoid the busyness trap.
Researchers have recently examined “idleness aversion and the need for justifiable busyness.” One such researcher, Christopher K. Hsee, of the University of Chicago, believes that "People are running around, working hard, way beyond the basic level because they have excessive energy and want to avoid idleness."
Writing in Fast Company, Jory MacKay described the paradox when it comes to busyness. “Anyone with professional ambition strives to do great work and be recognized for their talent and therefore is in high demand (i.e. busy). However, the more in demand you are (i.e. busy), the harder it is to provide the same quality of work or creative thinking that got you there in the first place. If being in demand is proof you’re doing a good job, it’s easy to mistake busyness for validation. But the opposite of busyness isn’t laziness or emptiness or unmoored drifting through life. Its purpose. Choice. Prioritization. Being busy is letting others control your time. Being purposeful is being in the driver’s seat.”
As Tim Kreider wrote in a New York Times editorial "people who have self-imposed a label of ‘always busy’ on themselves do so out of their addiction to busyness itself and dread what they might have to face in its absence.” Inventor Thomas A. Edison noted “Being busy does not always mean real work. The object of all work is production or accomplishment and to either of these ends there must be forethought, system, planning, intelligence, and honest purpose, as well as perspiration. Seeming to do is not doing.”
As Gary Burnison, CEO of Korn Ferry wrote “When someone asks you to take part in something, they want to know whether you consider them as a worthy investment of your time. And sometimes, the best thing to do is to say yes. Being typecast as the person who is self-important and always unavailable will only hurt, not help, your career.”
This concept of saying yes to work when you are already busy refers to the oft quote phrase “if you want something done give it to a busy person.” The interesting fact about this quote is that it seems to have originated from an 1856 report delivered by Reverend W. J. Kennedy who was the Inspector of Schools for Lancashire and the Isle of Man in Britain: “Just as it is almost proverbial that, if you want any business done for you, you should ask a busy man to do it, and not a man of leisure, so it is the laborious scholar, who is working hard at languages, who picks up, nay, actually reads and studies more of other subjects than the rest of his fellows at school or college.”
How often do you say, ‘I am too busy?’
Why do you feel the need to say “I am so busy?”
How does it make you feel when you hear yourself tell someone out loud that “you are so busy?”
Do you wear being busy like a badge of honor upon your chest?
Does being busier (whatever that means) than someone else make you feel superior?
Do you find yourself doing things just to make yourself busy?
How much of your identity is caught up in telling yourself how busy you are?
Do you believe the adage “if you want something done, give it to a busy person?”